Make a habit/break a habit

If youre trying to help yourself (or those you serve), the most effective thing you can do is create long-term habits. They become unseen foundations of who we will become.

The goal of running a marathon in six weeks is audacious, but its not a habit. You might succeed, but with all that pressure, its more likely youll simply abandon the project.

On the other hand, the goal of running to the mailbox (at least) and back for 50 days in a row is the sort of habit that might stick.

The same goes for education (we do flashcards every day is very different from I need to cram to learn quantum mechanics for the test.)

And it goes double for our lifestyles. If you can replace a bad habit with a good one, youll live with the benefits for decades.

The challenge is to set up systems that are likely to create habits, not sprints that lead to failure.

This one simple trick makes everything faster and easier

Here it is, tested, effective and worthwhile:

Stop chasing shortcuts.

Personal finance, weight loss, marketing, careers, beating traffic, relationships, education, everything that matters to someone often comes with heavily promoted shortcuts as an alternative.

Fast, risk-free, effortless secrets that magically work, often at someone elses expense.

But if the shortcuts worked as promised, they wouldnt be shortcuts, would they? Theyd be the standard.

A shortcut is not an innovation. Its not a direct path, either. Those work, but they require effort, risk and insight.

If you cant afford the time and effort to do it right, you probably cant afford to do it over after you realize that the shortcut was merely a trap.

Success is a state of mind = integrity + action & balance

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Life is what you make it but it only occurs in the present: NOW. No one forces us to do anything, but every decision that we make has an impact on the quality of our present moment.

Success is a state of mind! and not only of mind but also of body and soul

Successful men and women become successful because they acquire the habit of thinking in terms of success. Get the success habit in the small circumstances you control, and soon youll be controlling the bigger ones. -Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow Rich)

How can we get to that state of mind?

The past should only equal= great memories and experiences while the future should contain our dreams and hopes

You do not believe me? Ask Viktor E. Frankl. He was put into the most limiting conditions that a human been can experience: in a concentration camp during the second world war, but still under this situation and under constant pain and suffering, his memories, experiences, dreams and hopes, kept him alive.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. -Viktor E. Frankl

Life is like riding a bicycle to keep your balance you most keep moving

How right was Einstein! , once again.

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Top 10: Ways To Show Confidence With Your Body Language….

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They say a picture is worth a thousand words; now picture yourself, a prospective client, walking into a board meeting or a party. How do you look? What message do you communicate the moment you walk into a room? What are your eyes, hands and shoulders saying? What information can people gather about you before you ever say a word? Never thought about it? You should. And you can start by perusing our top 10 tips to show confidence with body language.

People read your body language, often via instinct and without thinking. Its because our poses and postures are a great source of information. They reflect our mood and our confidence level. We stand and walk a certain way when were confident and another way when were nervous. In a glance, most people can discern if were apprehensive or outgoing, relaxed or aggressive. With a little practice, we can learn the tips to show confidence through body language so that we always appear confident, capable and ready.

No.10 Avoid your pockets
The first tip on our list of the top 10 tips to show confidence with body language is to keep your hands out of your pockets. We put our hands in our pockets when were uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves. And as long as you have your hands stuffed down your pants, thats how other people will view you.

Instinctually we tend to hide our hands when were nervous; keeping your hands out in the open indicates confidence and shows people you have nothing to hide. Also, recognize that putting your hands in your pockets encourages slouching, which isnt good. As an alternative, try putting your hands on your hips; its a far more confident posture.

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7 Ways To Captivate A Corporate Audience..

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We’re all presenting virtually all the time. Interviewing for a new job? That’s a presentation, and you’re the brand. Giving a PowerPoint demonstration to your supervisor or board? That’s a presentation, quite possibly one that could catapult your career or set you back a few notches. Don’t let those opportunities go by without maximizing your chances for success.

Here are some ideas to help you stand out when you’re speaking to a professional audience.

1- Involve your audience early… & often
Listeners want to be engaged, not bored. Right out of the gate, give them a reason to sit through your presentation. You have 30 to 90 seconds to grab their attention. Throw out the old rule of starting with a joke. Bad idea. I’ve got news for you: You’re not Chris Rock.

Don’t get me wrong — injecting a humorous aside is perfectly acceptable. But throwing out such an aside is a lot different than starting with, “Two guys walk into a bar…”. Instead, start by asking a question. I’ve seen this technique work wonders. It brings your listeners into the discussion, and sets an informal, but positive tone. Another technique used by master presenters is to refer to one or two people in the audience by name.

2- Be animated
The best presentations are given by people who are animated in both body language and vocal delivery (we’ll get to the latter in a moment). Resist the temptation to hide behind a podium or to stand in one place. When I work with clients, I place a video camera in one fixed position. If they move out of frame consistently during the course of the presentation, they’re animated.

Try this next time: When speaking to a group of 20 people or more, walk among your audience as you speak. Stop every once in a while, placing your hand gently on one of your listeners’ shoulders (it might help to know the person the first few times you do this). Walking in the audience will help you retain their attention and create a special bond with them.

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