Sam Muchai

It’s easy to imagine habits like a scotch after dinner, biting your nails or saying, “you know” after every sentence. An event or a time of day triggers us, and we go with the habit. It’s easier than exploring new territory–it’s merely a thoughtless response to an incoming trigger.

But emotions can become habits as well.

Distrustful is a habit.

Lonely is a habit.

Generous is a habit.

When that stranger doesn’t do what you expect, is your response to assume that she’s out to get you, trying to make an extra buck, looking for a shortcut? Or do you default to the habit of giving that new person a chance to explain herself?

Habits are great when they help us get what we want. Bad habits, on the other hand, are bad because the shortcut that satisfies us in the moment gets in the way of our long term goals.

Once you can see that your emotions are as much as a habit as cracking your knuckles, they’re a lot easier to work with.

Companies often ask out for a seminar in team building.

However,if people are not performing and communicating with team spirit,it is not a team-building issue,its a leadership issue.

Great leadership will create culture in which teamwork will simply grow.They don’t need team-work training.The managers him or herself needs hands off leadership training so she can learn to mentor success instead of trying to impose productivity..

Embrace leadership and build a great team of colleagues…

I often start a day by drawing four circles on a blank piece of paper.

The circles represent:

• my day(today),
• my month,
• my year,
• and my life.

Inside each circle,I write down what I want.It can be a dollar figure,it ca be anything,and the goal can change from day to day_It doesn’t matter.There is no way to get this process wrong.

But by writing the goals down,I am like an airline pilot who is consulting a map prior to takeoff.I am orienting my mind to what I am up to in life.I am reminding myself of what I really want.We wouldn’t think,before an airline flight,of poking our heads into the cabin and saying to the pilot,”just take me anywhere!”Yet,that’s how we live our days when we don’t check the map.

Sometimes during our seminars,people say they don’t have the time for goal setting.But the four circle system I described takes only four minute!

Without advertising our goals to ourselves,we can lose sight of them altogether.It is possible to go entire week,or two or three,without thinking about our main goals in life.We get caught up in a reacting and responding to people and circumstances and we simply forget to think about our own purpose.

We need to advertise our own goals to ourselves.Otherwise,our psychic energy is spread too thin across the spectrum of things that aren’t that Important to us.

Work with this for the next two weeks starting today and share your new found perspective with us…Good luck.