{"id":1164,"date":"2017-04-03T11:12:49","date_gmt":"2017-04-03T08:12:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/?p=1164"},"modified":"2017-07-14T18:58:19","modified_gmt":"2017-07-14T15:58:19","slug":"fear-failure-shame-oh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/fear-failure-shame-oh\/","title":{"rendered":"Fear, failure and shame, oh my"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1165\" src=\"http:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/IMG_4410-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"dolphins_training_blog\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/IMG_4410-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/IMG_4410-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/IMG_4410-1024x683.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Fear runs deep. Fear used to keep our ancestors alive. Fear keeps you from taunting a saber tooth tiger.<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, most of us don&#8217;t have to deal with tigers any longer. But the fear still runs deep.<\/p>\n<p>We still feel the same feelings when we face possible failure, but now those feelings revolve around shame. Losing a videogame in private is fine, but asking a stupid question in a meeting is not.<\/p>\n<p>Shame is the dream killer, because shame (or the possibility of shame) amplifies our fear of fear, keeps us from contributing and short circuits our willingness to explore.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as we give it a name, though, as soon as we call it out, we can begin to move forward. Fear of shame unspoken is fear of shame amplified.<\/p>\n<p>Be afraid of significant failure if you can quantify the downsides. But fear of shame is a waste and a trap.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fear runs deep. Fear used to keep our ancestors alive. Fear keeps you from taunting a saber tooth tiger. The thing is, most of us don&#8217;t have to deal with tigers any longer. But the fear still runs deep. We still feel the same feelings when we face possible failure, but now those feelings revolve [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[12],"tags":[736,735,269,668,473,729,685,261,90,461,574,487,507,182,327,293,162,242,440,288,248,720,722,716,717,462,471,514,549,224,445,496,550,325,120,252,551,725,727,726,459,683,679,731,517,719,575,622,621,183,555,651,652,681,680,730,682,116,117,483,600,548,570,547,527,678,684,674,677,676,675,672,670,671,669,667,592,653,566,718,673,723,571,654,660,657,659,658,655,34,650,572,567,569,568,553,552,701,691,695,692,698,687,697,693,699,689,700,702,696,690,688,694,706,598,705,708,593,591,710,707,594,703,711,597,709,704,585,595,596,589,590,586,588,587,599,644,645,199,56,565,577,576,580,581,582,583,584,721,712,623],"yst_prominent_words":[741,1466,1057,1467],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1164"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1164"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1164\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1166,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1164\/revisions\/1166"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1164"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1164"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1164"},{"taxonomy":"yst_prominent_words","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dolphinsgroup.co.ke\/dolphins_training\/blogging\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/yst_prominent_words?post=1164"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}